This is an excerpt from my latest book “The Three Levels of Self-Awareness.
This excerpt is from a Spanish book that is translated into English.
A little while back I was asked by a group of friends what the three levels of self-awareness were. I told them to read the book, and I will elaborate on it here.
The first level of self-awareness is to look at your own habits and routines: “What habits and routines are you using to make your life a misery?” This is the first step in determining what’s causing your dissatisfaction.
The problem is that most of us are used to living in a world where we can’t see ourselves clearly or have a clue what to do to fix things. In this world, we have to depend on others to fix our problems without even being aware of it. Because we are so used to relying on others to fix our problems, it is quite normal for us to end up being dependent on someone else to fix our problems.
The fact is that most of us are used to rely on others to fix our problems without even being aware of it. We depend on others to fix our problems and when we are unable to fix our problems ourselves, we depend on others to fix our problems.
Sure. But that is not always a good thing. When we depend on others to fix our problems, we can forget that they aren’t capable of fixing our problems because they don’t know the problem. When we depend on others to fix our problems, then we forget that it isn’t always their fault because they are not thinking about the issue. We forget that they are not thinking about the issue because they have no idea what the issue is.
The problem is that unless we first talk about the issue, we can end up just blaming the other person and not really taking responsibility for our own actions. In other words, until we talk about the problem, we are just blaming the other person. The more you talk about the problem, the less you take responsibility. The less you take responsibility the less you can stop blaming the other person.
When you are talking about an issue, it is important to understand how the other person is feeling. You cannot blame someone for something that they are not feeling. In other words, we can’t take responsibility for something we are not aware of. If we do take responsibility, then we are making the other person responsible for something that they do not feel.
Yeah, sometimes it’s better just to stay quiet and let someone else explain it to us. We need to learn to let the other person be in charge. If they are the one to explain to us, then they are always in the best position to explain things that we don’t understand. That said, a lot of the time, I feel like we don’t take responsibility because we don’t know what we’re talking about.